Quit Exaggerating your Past

The past is what it is, let the past stay where it belongs. No amount of whining, moaning or pity parties can change the past from what it is. 

 

You know you are exaggerating your past when you find yourself reverting to the "past mode". The past mode features phrases such as "Had I known", Only if I had gotten there on time", "Maybe I was not careful enough", "I am not that smart anyway".

 

It becomes more serious if you throw momentary pity parties to justify these moments. The pity parties then become more frequent and the guest lists become longer.

 

If you find that you have - regrets, deep sorrow of the heart, emotional eating, lack of energy, negative perspectives toward the future... etc. on your guest list, then you are really exaggerating your past and welcoming more special guests in upcoming parties.

 

These special guests totally crowd your thoughts so much so that you weep spontaneously, lose touch with your sense of being and you are told to seek professional help.

 

You do not have influence over your past, but you sure have influence over your response to it. 

 

Quit exaggerating your past! 

 

 

 

Philanthropy Gone Wrong

Dear Philanthropist,

 

We were very excited when we heard you were initiating community development projects in our community. Though we heard the technology behind your initiatives was linked to an Advertising campaign, we were still hopeful for the promises you made during your first visit. It's been a year since you and your team initiated the projects, but you have left us more pain and anguish than joy... Thanks to you, our skeptic attitude towards philanthropy has deteriorated!

 

With regrets,

 

The Community Representative

 

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#LessonsLearnt

 

• Proposed technology behind philanthropic initiatives should be investigated thoroughly
• Advertising campaigns should never be directly attached to philanthropic initiatives
• Let your reputation speak for itself!

 

How to optimise your "go getter" tendencies

“Procrastination is the thief of time: Year after year it steals, till all are fled, And to the mercies of a moment leaves The vast concerns of an eternal scene” - Edward Young

 

This is that time of the year when all hands are on deck to finalise those projects and tasks which have been accumulating dusts on the shelves and cabinets of the "mind".

 

Go getters need not wait for the end of the year to acquire momentum, momentum is their second nature. Neither are they driven by New Year's resolutions as everyday has its own resolutions, nor tormented by other people's achievements as communal accomplishments are included in their daily resolution.

 

To the "Go getter", tomorrow is now! Tomorrow passes as the clock ticks, tomorrow fades away as the minutes and seconds go by.

 

Journals of my doctoral journey.

 

 

Thanks for checking in

 

Abosede Ijabadeniyi

 

Doctoral Candidate - Durban University of Technology, Durban, South Africa

 

Research area:  Corporate Marketing and Corporate Social Responsibility (CSR)